Envy is for Losers

Despite what society tells you, the desire to obtain as much money as you can is a good thing. The food you eat, the clothes you wear, the roof over your head, it all cost money. Without these things, our quality of life would rival that of the countries you see on TV commercials. 

The majority of the population villiainizes the rich. Why is this? Out of envy. Envy that they do not have access to the same options that comes with being rich. Being envious is one of the greatest sins a man can commit. 

When we decide to envy a person for something we don’t have, we are wasting not only our time but our energy as well. When you act in that way, nothing changes. That person will still have what you don’t. Instead of anger and resentment, the paradigm must shift. Let the absence of those things fuel your fire. Don’t envy, put yourself in motion to reach that which you don’t have. 

There is a concept in Psychology called Locus of Control. Essentially it is how we assign responsibility to our experiences.

Example: You are driving through town and get t-boned passing through the intersection.

External LOC: “Life isn’t fair. Now my car is totaled and I’ll be late for work.”

Internal LOC: “This happened to me because I was not aware of the cars around me.”

This is obviously a simplified example. However, every day we are constantly bouncing back between these two. Instead of being jealous of the guy driving the corvette with the model riding shotgun, appreciate his situation. Then determine how you can get to where he is now. 

One of the best ways to do this is through Gap Analysis. In management, it is a tool showing where we are now vs. where we want to be, and how we will get there. 

Step 1: Determine where you want to be. 

Step 2: Analyze your current situation.

Step 3: Formulate a plan using SMART goals to get you there. 

If you wanted to get jacked, your thought process would be this:

Step 1: Envision what you want to look like. Reference those who have the physique.

Step 2: What are your weak points? How much weight should you lose? What does my diet look like?

Step 3: I will train 5x a week for 12 months. Each day I will focus on a different muscle group. I will be conscious of my food choices and not drink soda. 

When you feel envy, that is your mind telling you something is wrong. Pride is showing you that somebody else has what you want. You can either go through life angry at these people, or you can make a change. Decide that if they can do it, you sure as hell can. Take responsibility for your life.

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